Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Discovering Your Strengths

As I am continuing with my job search, I still sometimes have the small drop of wondering if I chose the right major and am really following God's plan for my life or did I just choose it because it was what I wanted to be ever since I was in 2nd grade and never really took the time to experience other interests? I know I can't be the only one who feels this way, and it's okay for anyone to have doubts because we don't know all of the answers to our lives. That is why we turn to God. He holds our lives in His hands and knows everything about us, even our future! As I am reading through my devotional book, "You're Already Amazing" by Holley Gerth, I am opening my eyes to see my own strengths and skills. Strengths are part of who we are, a personal characteristic that is used on behalf of God in service to others. For anyone who knows me, I hate bragging about myself and never set myself on a pedestal, so this devotional was very difficult as it pushed me to think of how great I am. Maybe that's what we all need. During times of disappointments and discouragement, we all just need a little push to see how great we truly are in not only God's eyes, but in our own. Next time you are feeling down, think about who you are and how you serve others. List 3-5 of those strengths. You have no choice but to think positively of yourself.

I listed that 4 of my strengths were caring, funny, reliable, and resourceful. Going to college really opened my eyes to see how each person is different and unique in how God made them, so I learned to be more sensitive to others. I really grew in my faith as I learned to be considerate to others who followed a different faith than I do. I learned that sometimes the best way to be a witness for Christ is by simply showing the love of Christ instead of stuffing the Bible down their throat. I learned to be caring to others no matter how different or alike we may be.

As I started living on my own at college, I had to develop a strong sense of who I was. I have always been a shy person, very introverted. Always have and always will be. But being introverted isn't a bad thing and definitely doesn't mean that you can't be a leader or don't possess any leadership skills. I see being introverted as providing you the best skills needed to be a great leader. You listen to others and consider what would be best for the team instead of just yourself. All throughout college, I was a leader in many different aspects of the activities I were active in. But being on my own forced me to get out of my shell because I was at a school where I knew no one, sharing a dorm each year for four years with a new person I didn't know, and living my first year on a hall where we had a community bathroom. And I am sure some of you are making a disgusting face or tightening up thinking about a community bathroom because at most colleges, they are gross. But, thank the good Lord, Samford hired amazing workers who kept our bathroom spotless. Looking back on it now, I am so thankful for the community bathroom. It was my way of getting to know the girls on my hall that I probably wouldn't have had the time or courage to just walk up to their doors and introduce myself. It was through the community we developed on our hall that I made great friends, one of whom I consider a very dear and close friend of mine who lived on the hall around the corner from me. When breaking out of my shell, I tried to find a common interest between me and whomever I was meeting. My common ground was usually through humor. I mean who doesn't enjoy a good laugh? Some say it is a wit, but I tend to say/do whatever I can to get a laugh out of someone. It makes me happy knowing someone else is smiling.

When I think about being reliable, I think about all of the group/partner projects I have ever been a part of. Out of the many (probably hundreds) projects, I can only think of 2 where I wasn't happy with the outcome. I was probably tired, fed-up, or just wanted to get it down and didn't give it my all. It's not an excuse. When I think back on it, I should have been more motivated to do my very best in every situation no matter how interested I was or wasn't. Group/partner project truly all boil down to trust and reliability. If there isn't a leader, someone has to step up and take that role. Everyone needs to trust that the leader can do the job and the leader has to trust that everyone else will listen and give their best effort. This is relying on one another to achieve a goal together. Aside from those two projects, I believe that I was a reliable person no matter what role I took on in the project. When being the leader I tried to keep things organized and equalize the work for each person, but also made sure that it was all completed for the good of the group. As a member of a group, I would do my best work for what I was given to do and ask if there was anything else to do. In group projects, I think it's important that you change roles. For 1 of the 2 disappointing projects, I took on the role of being the leader too many times which really burned me out. For the other project, it was 2 people who were used to being leaders, so I had to transition into just being a member for the first time and let myself get ran over by the leader. Both were learning and growing experiences that have helped me become a reliable person as a leader, member, or any other role.

I smile with I think of being resourceful. It's almost like performing a magic trick without doing anything. I can think of so many projects I worked on where something messed up, and I had to think fast on what to do. I recall one where I was making colorful Wordles for my students at my last student teaching placement and I ran out of colored paper. I decided that my homeroom would get colored words on white paper instead of the black words on colored paper. I know it seems really small and insignificant, but at 2 in the morning I considered it brilliant thinking! There have been many times when I have been teaching a lesson and had to think quick on my feet because a student would ask something that I wasn't prepared for or something I had planned didn't quite work out how it was supposed to or I forgot to bring something. And honestly, that is how the real world is no matter what your profession is. Things happen and you have to think and act quickly.

I know this post probably seems as though I am just sitting here tooting my own horn, but I am learning how important it is that we see the good qualities we possess. God already sees them. He placed them within us to start with. Our family and friends can tells us about them, but we may not necessarily believe it until we actually step back and observe ourselves. I challenge you to do something like this. Grab a few pieces of paper. Blog about it. Type it on your computer to save it. Use a thousand sticky-notes to put on your desk. Whatever you need to do. If I can write 4 paragraphs about myself when I absolutely hate talking about me, then you can do it too! I dare ya! You cannot and do not want to turn this dare down. God knows your wonderful qualities, so take 30 minutes out of your day to talk to Him and discover them for yourself. Trust me, you will feel good and glad that you did this.


Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Discouraged

Feeling stressed? Not really knowing what to do or where to go from here? Yes, that's exactly how I have been feeling for the past few days. Every day I am on my computer looking for new job postings, e-mailing principals, and calling principals trying to set up interviews. It seems as though all of my efforts have failed as I receive no reply from principals or if I do hear from them, it is them saying that they have already made their recommendations. I have even been lied to by one. And I'm not quitting, but these setbacks do leave me discouraged and feeling like a failure. I would just love to get one piece of good news. A reply from a principals saying he/she received my resume and would love for me to call to set up an interview. A principal answering the phone when I call willing to schedule an interview. I'm not asking for a job, though of course I want one! I am simply asking for the chance to show that I am a worthy candidate to be a teacher. I guess it is times like these where I do wondering if I am doing what God has called me to do. Haven't we all had a moment or two like this before? I realize that it is just the devil trying to bring me down while he knows things are a bit rough for me, and being an emotionally determined girl probably isn't the most positive aspect of it either.

So as I was going back over a devotional chapter I had already read from "You're Already Amazing," Holley Gerth was talking about our strengths and how during times like this, our strengths can flip on us and turn into the extreme opposite. In things that I am passionate about, I become so involved that every aspect of who I am is wrapped up into my passion. I get emotionally attached, and I think that is one of the greatest ways to show passion is through emotions. But because of my high emotion of the passion to be a teacher is in the valley right now, it is playing the extreme mode. I feel discouraged, let down, sad, upset, angry, confused, annoyed, frustrated. Thank God I'm not the only person who has every had these emotions before! He even spoke words to overcome this. "Do not be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord will personally go ahead of you. He will be with you; He will neither fail you nor abandon you." -Deuteronomy 31:8. What comfort that brings me! God is going ahead of me and is preparing my future job and future students for me! I make feel like I am failing at life right now, but God is setting me up for success. One wise person once said, "Every setback is a setup for a comeback. God wants to bring you out better than you were before." It's hard for me to believe that because I don't know what my future holds, but I know who holds my future and that faith is being able to believe without seeing/knowing. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'" It's okay that we struggle. Struggles make us stronger mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When we are down, we have the choice to turn away from God or turn to God. I wish it wasn't that way. I wish I was faithful and turning to God all the time, good and bad. But no matter what, I know that God is with me and is planning my future so wonderfully and in His time. Another strength that has turned into an extreme opposite on me is my determination.

In every goal I have set in my life, I have always been determined to see them through. In high school, I was determined to work hard, do my best, and graduate in the top 5. When looking at colleges, I was determined to go to Samford and applied for every scholarship I could so that I could be there. In college, I was determined to finish every project I was assigned as perfectly as possible (thanks to my OCD). I was determined to graduate from college with at least a 3.5 GPA and honors. I'm not saying obtaining each goal was easy. Each goal required a lot of hard work and dedication to each cause, but each one also required having faith in myself and being able to turn problems over to God that I couldn't handle. Of course there were bumps and setbacks for each one, but determination is what kept me getting back up and going. Now I feel like I have been determined for the wrong thing for me. Have I really listened to God's Will for my life or did I choose it myself? My pastor's wife sent me a verse and it has recharged me to remind me that my determination will pay off in the end. "You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You." -Isaiah 26:3.

Right now things aren't really going my way, and they may not seem to be going your way as well, but remember that God is in control of every detail in our lives. He rewards those who are determined to follow His Will and is preparing the path for your life before you.


Wednesday, June 12, 2013

You are ______.

Quick! Fill in the blank. What do you feel/think you are? Before I began my daily devotional readings in "You're Already Amazing" by Holley Gerth, I would have answered it with imperfect, unimportant, along with other words to that would define me as "not good enough." God thinks different of us though.

  • You're amazing.
  • You're enough.
  • You're beautiful.
  • You're wanted
  • You're chosen.
  • You're called.
  • You've got what it takes, not just to survive but to change the world.
When I read those words, I'll admit it. I blushed. I shook my head in disbelief. I thought to myself, "This person doesn't even know me." But God does. And that is exactly how God sees me. When He looks at me, He says "She is loved, accepted, and valued. She is created just the way I wanted her to be." We don't have to work harder to try and be better. God loves us as He made us. He made us uniquely and specifically how He intended us to be.

God took His perfect Son and made Him broken so that we can be whole. I have had my fair share of feeling broken, but reading these words really hit me. When I stumble or am feeling down, I always assume that it is because I have done something wrong and it's God's way of punishing me. Well, that isn't always the case. Many times we experience brokenness because we are human and God allows us to experience certain situations to learn and grow from to provide healing and encouragement to others.

Now, let's start over. Fill in the blank. What do you feel/think you are? For me, I am a child God and daughter of the King who has been fearfully and wonderfully made.



Much of this post was referenced and used from "You're Already Amazing" by Holley Gerth.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Be Still

Life is so chaotic. Busy is what we label it. As a woman, I know that we think that we have to do this and we have to do that to stay on top of it as it appears every other woman is. We get so caught up doing and going that we don't hear God whisper to us, "Be still." Trust me, I am not pointing fingers at anyone. Actually, I am pointing all fingers to me. As you can tell, I haven't blogged in well over 5 months. I recently graduated Cum Laude from Samford University receiving my B.S. in Early Childhood/Elementary/Special Education, so being busy and on the go during the semester of student teaching really consumed my life. I'm not proud of it. I wish I had devoted more time in building my relationship with God. Lately, I have been so frustrated and stressed out about not finding a teaching when lots of my friends are (and I am super excited for them!!). It has been 24 days since I have graduated, and I have been e-mailing and getting in touch with school systems and principals since then but haven't gotten a call about a job yet. I am used to always being busy and having something to do that it floors me being at home twiddling my thumbs as I wait by my phone or constantly check my e-mail for anything. Yet, God whispers to me, "Be still." I think it is time I listen. After all, He knows what is best for me anyways. Let me tell you how much of a dork I am. I have been single for over 6 years. When I was getting ready to move to college, I prayed God would send me a good guy to fall in love with at college. God really has a sense of humor. The ratio of girls to guys at Samford is 3 to 1. Yes, for everyone 1 guy, there are 3 girls. But, God did answer my prayer. In March (or maybe it was February -I am really bad at remembering some things-), I received a message on a dating website I signed up on (and frankly forgot that I had because I probably signed up one day when I was bored) and didn't respond for a few weeks later. We ended up texting a few times, but I assumed it had fizzled out, lost interest. One day I was bored and randomly selected people to text. He was one of them. By the beginning of May, we were exclusively dating but not officially a couple. The humor in this story is God did send me a Christian, loving man the week after I turned in my final homework assignment ever and 8 days before I graduated from college. God knew I needed to keep my focus on my school work, and after I finished it all He answered my prayers. Now I know this seems like I'm veering off course and chasing a rabbit (and maybe I am and just wanted to brag a little bit on this fantastic guy God has sent my way), but it is an example of trusting God in everything and He will answer prayers when He knows we are ready, not when we think we are ready. Maybe you are like me. You are praying for something to happen and are becoming frustrated that it isn't instantly answered. Be Still. Maybe you are like how I felt in college during my student teaching: constantly on the go and being busy but still feel like something is missing but you don't have time to stop. Be Still. Trust me on this one. It's okay to slow down, even stop. God desires you and wants time with you. It has taken me a long time to realize this, but I have been reading "You're Already Amazing" by Holley Gerth and it has opened my eyes to see that I don't have to do more, be more, or think things need to happen instantly to meet God's approval. He created us in His image (Genesis 1:27). Although I have already read through three chapters of the book, I am going to back track so we can go on this journey together to see how amazing God already thinks we are. Be still.